écrire ses voeux de mariage

You love them and want to open your heart to them, but when it comes to writing your wedding vows, you find yourself facing the dreaded “blank page.”

Don’t panic—the ceremony is fast approaching, and it is completely normal for your thoughts to feel a little scattered at times.

By following these four simple steps, writing your wedding vows will hold no more secrets for you!

Step 1: Get your thoughts clear before writing your wedding vows

The first step before writing your wedding vows is brainstorming. This means putting down on paper all the ideas that come to mind—keywords, phrases, anything that feels meaningful.

Ask yourself:

  • Why do I love him/her?
  • How has he/she changed my life?
  • What does he/she bring to my everyday life?
  • What do I love about him/her that makes this person unique?
  • What are my best memories? Our first meeting? Our biggest moments of laughter?

Step 2: Organize your ideas

Once your ideas are written down, you now have your first draft. Take the time to read it several times in order to highlight the ideas that stand out the most and that you absolutely want to include in your vows.

Tip: Allow a few days between these two steps. Your ideas will have time to mature in your mind, and after some distance, some of them will feel more relevant to keep than others.

Step 3: Structure your text

After letting your ideas settle for a few days, it is time to put them into a clear and refined form.

You can begin your speech with an anecdote, such as your first meeting or a meaningful moment in your relationship. Then, structure your ideas according to the tone you want to give your vows.

You can organize your speech in this way:

  • Why you love your partner
  • The reason you are getting married
  • Why this person is so special in your eyes
  • How you envision your future together (plans, travels, children, etc.)

Step 4: Final writing of your wedding vows

Once your ideas are clear and your structure is in place, you can begin writing your wedding vows. Express yourself simply and let your heart speak so your speech feels as personal as possible.

Address your partner as if you were alone in the room together. This is your moment—your words in their honor. Your writing should remain simple and true to who you are.

Don’t forget to read and reread your notes before the big day. There is no need to know your speech by heart, so make sure you bring your notes with you, written clearly and spaced out for easy reading.

Here it is, the D-day has arrived, today you are going to read your wishes to your dear and tender Love. In order not to forget your precious text, so carefully thought out, entrust it beforehand to a loved one, to your secular ceremony officiant, or if you have one, to your wedding planner.

You will be able to leave calmly and fully enjoy this unforgettable day.